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Views My best guy friend keeps talking me into having sex with him. I care about him heaps and wouldnt want to lose his friendship. We have mucked around before and kissed. But now he is getting serious he sends me texts almost every nite saying that he loves me and cant stop thinking about me and how he wants to lose his virginity to someone special like me. Our friendship has completely changed we use to be able to talk about our problems with each other but now all he talks about is how is going to be legal soon (16) and how he will want to fu*k me. He is consatley asking me if i would have sex with him and allways making me feel bad and saying it is the least i can do for him. I have told him no but i dont want to lose my friendship with him (we have been friends for like 3 years)
Should i just sleep with him or just ignore everything?
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G. kravitz | 08:05AM, Jan 22, '08
You can never allow anyone to talk you into having sex, it's not right for him to make you feel this way, respect yourself and your body, you only get one, treat it right, and if he were really your friend he would never ask this of you, and you told him no, he should respect your answer and move on, he keeps at you because he is trying to break you down, don't fall for this crap, i know your young and this stuff is hard, stay strong and confident,if he loves you when you tell him no again, he will understand and if not too bad.
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Rudy H | 08:04AM, Jan 22, '08
Good friends are hard to find, but bad ex lovers are a dime a dozen. Do yourself a favor and explain to him that you are not romantically interested in him and that if he continues to push the sex issue then you'll be forced to end the friendship. If the friendship is as important to him as it is to you then he'll drop it. If not, then there's your answer. He want sex and nothing more.
Sure, people meet and become friends and sometimes become physically attracted to one another, but from my experience these end badly.
It sounds like you may be losing a friend because of his immaturity and that is sad. The biggest thing I can suggest is that you talk to him, if he wont listen to the talk, then TELL him..."I do not want to have sex with you!"
Good luck?!
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HerbsFan | 08:04AM, Jan 22, '08
Don't let him talk you into something you are not ready for or comfortable with. If he was a true friend, he would respect your wishes and quit trying to coerce you into doing something you're not ready to do. Stand your ground!
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Anonymous U | 08:04AM, Jan 22, '08
Leave him, save your virginity for someone truly special. You're still young, there are plenty of opportunities, unless you feel the same way about him of course, which you obviously don't.
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Chica Bonita | 08:04AM, Jan 22, '08
You should never do anything that you don't want to. Who cares what he wants, do what you want. Don't do anything you'll regret. It sounds like you don't love him, so why don't you wait to give yourself to someone you do love. If sex is so important to him then your friendship with him is pointless. But in the end its up to you, good luck.
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Michael | 08:03AM, Jan 22, '08
(Should i just sleep with him or just ignore everything?)
Neither... There is a third option. A friend who tries to get you to do something you don't want to do isn't much of a friend. Just cut the tie and maintain your dignity. -
nhnp13 | 08:03AM, Jan 22, '08
You should not sleep with him. It will probably hurt your relationship. 16 is sooooooo young to be having sex! Tell him NO and tell him to drop it. He will lose all respect for you if you sleep with him like that.
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Kim K | 08:03AM, Jan 22, '08
Ignore him. He's becoming borderline sexual harassment and it's not cool. Tell him to stop at once as it makes you uncomfortable. If he cannot respect your wishes to not have sex then he's not a good friend. Your dignity and self-respect is more important than a friendship with some creep who only sees you as a sex object.
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Passion D | 08:03AM, Jan 22, '08
Please do not sleep with someone because u are afraid to lose there friendship, if they are a true friend they would not force you into anything! Respect yourself
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Suzanne H | 08:01AM, Jan 22, '08
no no no
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I have no name | 08:01AM, Jan 22, '08
Tell him exactly what you told us.
that you dont want to ruin a good friendship. cause that will.
